Katlego Sekhu
A listener shares that a year after welcoming their child, she had to undergo a hysterectomy. Some years later, her husband cheated. She chose to forgive him, and they tried to rebuild their marriage.
Two years ago, however, he cheated again, and this time had a child outside of their relationship. He initially blamed her demanding job, despite having accepted its pressures before they married, and later said he was unhappy with their intimate life.
After 23 years together, she says the trust is broken, and she no longer sees him the same way, especially as he has admitted he is still involved with the other woman. Now unemployed and with nowhere else to go, she feels torn between leaving for her well-being and staying for stability and survival.
Reaching out to The Best T in the City with Tbose, Anonymous wants to know if there are any blind spots she could be overlooking.
“Uncle T, a year after we had our child, I had to undergo a hysterectomy. Then, some years later, my husband cheated on me. I chose to forgive him, and we tried to rebuild our marriage. However, two years ago, he cheated again, and this time, he had a child outside of our relationship. Initially, he blamed my work, saying I was often absent. That hurt deeply, because he had always known the demands of my job, even before we got married, and he had accepted them. Later, he said he was unhappy with our intimate life and felt that I had a low libido.
“For a time, I thought I should simply accept the situation, as he seems happier with the other woman, and maybe I should allow him to continue that relationship. I cannot undo my surgery or change what has happened to my body. But the truth is, something in me has changed. I no longer see him the same way, and the trust we once had is gone, especially after he had a child outside our 23-year marriage and admitted that he is still involved with her. What makes things worse now is that I am currently unemployed and have nowhere to go if I decide to leave. This has led me to ask myself some difficult questions: Am I holding on to a man who has already chosen a life that does not fully include me?
“Am I staying because I still believe in us, or because I am afraid of what life might look like without the security he provides? More than anything, I feel torn. Part of me knows I deserve more than a situation that no longer fulfils me, while another part of me feels the need to stay for the sake of stability and survival. It is a constant struggle between choosing what may be right for my well-being and choosing what feels safest in this moment. Please help me reveal my blind spots.”
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