Katlego Sekhu
Anonymous grew up in a home marked by violence. For years, she and her siblings watched their father abuse their mother, until the day their mother finally found the courage to leave. Within months, their father killed her. Anonymous was 10. Her brother was 12. Her sister was 6.
Their maternal grandmother took them in and raised them while their father served his prison sentence. His family pushed for visits and forgiveness throughout the years, but the children were not ready.
Despite everything, their father had always been a businessman. His brothers kept his affairs running while he was incarcerated, and the paternal family ensured the children’s education was covered. T Then in January, their father passed away after a short illness. They attended the funeral. A few months later, his will was read. He left them 70% ownership of his business and a significant share of his accumulated wealth.
Her brother believes they should claim it without hesitation. Her sister is caught between obligation and discomfort. For anonymous, accepting the inheritance feels like it means something she has not yet found the words for.
Reaching out to The Best T in the City with Tbose, Anonymous wants to know if there are any blind spots she might be missing.
“My father was very abusive towards my mother while we were growing up. After years of living through that violence, my mother finally found the courage to leave. But what should have been her freedom became our worst tragedy. Only a few months later, my father killed her.
“I was 10 at the time, my brother 12, and my younger sister just 6. After that, we were taken in by our maternal grandmother, who raised us while our father was sent to prison. During his incarceration, his family tried to stay in touch with us, but as we grew older, we pulled away. They kept insisting we visit him and forgive him, but we were not ready.
“Years later, our father was released on parole. He asked for our forgiveness, and for our own peace, we gave it, though forgiveness didn’t mean reconciliation. We kept our distance and continued with our lives from afar. Despite everything, he had always been a businessman. Even while in prison, his brothers continued running his businesses, and financially, we never really struggled. My paternal grandmother also ensured that our education was taken care of, so we managed to build stable lives for ourselves.
“In January, my father passed away after a short illness. We attended the funeral, but I felt strangely numb, like I was present in body but not in spirit. A few months later, his will was read. In it, he left us 70% ownership of his business, along with a share of the money he had accumulated. On paper, it was a significant inheritance, life-changing, even. But emotionally, I felt nothing.
“My brother, however, has been firm since then. He believes that, regardless of everything that happened, this is what is rightfully ours and we should claim it without hesitation. My younger sister is unsure; she is caught somewhere between obligation and discomfort.
“And me… I feel suspended between logic and memory. Because it’s not just about inheritance. It’s about what it represents. How do you accept wealth from the same man who took your mother’s life? How do you separate survival from pain, or justice from discomfort? And if you refuse it, does that honour her or erase what she suffered?
“All three of us are adults now. We work, we have families, we’ve built lives that are not dependent on our late dad, and yet, this decision feels like it pulls us right back into a story we thought we had closed. Is this inheritance ours to claim? Why does it feel like he is buying our forgiveness from the grave? Even if we decide to put this in a trust for our kids’ education, the history of who their grandfather is that is going to be painful for them to face.”
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